Stepping into a leadership role early in your career can feel like an exhilarating leap. The opportunities are immense, the learning curve is steep, and the feeling of making an impact is incredibly rewarding. But let’s be honest, it can also come with its own unique set of anxieties and uncertainties. I experienced this firsthand when I took on my first Director role in my late twenties.
I remember a particular moment that really crystallized these mixed emotions. I was at an industry conference, surrounded by seasoned veterans, their collective experience practically radiating across the room. The speaker was engaging the audience by highlighting the generational diversity present. They asked everyone to stand, then had groups sit down in sequence: first those over 60, then over 50, and so on. As the speaker continued, “those over 30 sit down,” I suddenly found myself the only one left standing in the room.
In that instant, a wave of mixed emotions washed over me, including a surprising sense of shame and isolation. I’m still not entirely sure why it hit me so hard, but it made me question my validity in that space. Was I truly equipped to be here? Did I belong?
I reflect on this particular story because I can imagine other early career leaders feeling something similar, wondering, “I don’t fit in precisely with traditional leadership systems, can I be effective and leave my mark here?” The good news is that we’re witnessing a significant changing of the guard in how we view leadership. The emphasis for leaders is shifting towards innovation through collaboration, where psychological safety and team dynamics are recognized as a source of competitive advantage. This new landscape truly welcomes diverse perspectives and fresh approaches.
Looking back, I genuinely wish I had a coach or mentor to support me during that formative time. Someone who could have helped me process those feelings, affirmed my capabilities, and guided me through the inevitable challenges of early leadership. I probably would have saved myself a whole lot of learning the hard way.
Navigating the complexities of leadership, especially when you’re carving your own path at a young age, is incredibly valuable. A coach or mentor can provide:
- A safe sounding board: Someone unbiased to discuss your ideas, fears, and frustrations with.
- Strategic guidance: Insights on navigating organizational dynamics, making tough decisions, and developing your leadership style.
- Confidence building: Affirmation and encouragement when self-doubt creeps in.
- Accelerated growth: Learning from someone else’s experiences, saving you time and missteps.
If you’re an early career leader, or even an aspiring one, don’t underestimate the power of a supportive voice in your corner. While the journey will always have its unique challenges, having a coach or mentor can transform those moments of isolation into opportunities for profound growth, helping you truly come into your own and make a lasting impact.
This is me looking oh so professional at
the Executive Holiday Party, circa 2008.
